Saturday, 1 February 2014

I met someone in "real life"

yesterday - "real life" as opposed to "internet life". It was a very enjoyable meeting too. I hope she and her husband enjoyed it as much as I did. I think they did.
While we were talking about people she knows in real life and I only know in my internet life she remarked that it must be very strange for me to know people only in that way. Yes, it is.
I went home thinking about it.
I think internet "friendships" must, for the most part, be artificial. You can't really know what people are like until you actually physically meet them. Even then the circumstances under which you meet them will colour your impressions of them - or they seem likely to do so.
I remember my first meeting with my chief doctoral supervisor. We had never made contact before. I duly turned up for the preliminary "I might take you on as a student" meeting feeling very nervous. More than one person had said he was "very difficult" to work with. (Yes, he was.) I wondered if he would be abrupt and impatient. (Yes, he was.) I wondered why he was bothering but assumed he wanted something from me. (Yes, he did.) I wonder now how he would have come across in social media. I don't think he would have come across well. I can think of more people like him - although not quite as difficult.
But there are other people I have chosen to make contact with - such as writers and knitters (and sometimes people who are both) - who seem very different. They come across as individuals. I think I would like some of them more than others - but that is true of everyone I know.
One day I may be fortunate enough to physically meet more of the people with whom I have virtual relationships. I will be interested to see if they are, to me, like the impression they give.
But, it bothers me a bit because one of them once said that I came across as being "very assertive" - and that is not the case. I would have said the reverse was true. She is very assertive and I am hopeless at sticking up for myself! One day I might find out.

 

8 comments:

Helen Devries said...

I've only met two of the people with whom I communicate by blogging...and they were just as they sounded on their blog.

I wonder what my blogging contacts would make of me....

jeanfromcornwall said...

I'm an antisocial old bag, and don't tend to want to mix much, but strangely, OH and I have met some of the people we are in touch with on a forum, and liked them much more than we thought we would.

Miriam said...

So far the online people I've actually met have not surprised me at all. I'd love to meet you one day, Cat, although I don't expect I'd be surprised by you, either.

catdownunder said...

I'd like to meet you all one day!
Really would love to meet you in Jerusalem Miriam!

virtualquilter said...

I made a comment soon after joining the big wide virtual world that I thought some of the people I met virtually seemed liked people I would like in real life. My son said you can hide your identity on the net, but most people cannot hide their personalty for very long!

virtualquilter said...

By the way, like you on the net, and the real Cat is just as likable!

virtualquilter said...

By the way, like you on the net, and the real Cat is just as likable!

catdownunder said...

And the real life you turned out to just as likeable and great fun to know!