"Unconditional love"

is a nice phrase. It sounds good.
But what does it mean?
I didn't see much of the wedding speech which seems to have stirred up so much controversy. I have now read it.  
May I say that I suspect a lot of people who heard it didn't actually listen to it?  They heard the words. They heard the style in which it was delivered but they didn't actually listen to what Bishop Curry was saying.
What a lot of people seemed to like was the fact (as they saw it) that a "black man" was in the position of being able to lecture a lot of "white people".  Yes, more than one person I know said gleeful things like, "The Queen hated it."
Really? How do they know that? 
I  doubt very much that the Queen hated it. It isn't in her nature to hate. It is much more likely that she was listening intently to a delivery style which required concentration. 
Yes of course the style of service was "different".  It was after all a service for the two getting married, particularly the bride. It wasn't for  the others gathered there or for the enormous television audience.  
The sermon or homily was for them too - and it also addressed everyone else, including those of who were not present.  It wasn't about a "black" man lecturing "white" people. The message was about something we often forget about - love.
Love is a word most of us like to use rather a lot. The problem is we use it in the wrong way. "I love my new shoes" and "I love that colour on you" or "I'm in love with  X (a footballer or actor perhaps)" and so it goes on. Those things are not love. 
Love is often little things - not grand gestures. It's there when a friend of mine  comes up from behind and kisses the top of his wife's head in public - because they had been apart for an hour. It's there when someone has done a great injury to another through wrongful behaviour and the injured person forgives them.  It doesn't mean forgiving the behaviour - but it does mean forgiving the person. Love is there in a book like Ronald Searle's "Les Tres Riches Heures de Mrs Mole". It's not a great work of literature but a simple series of drawings done for his wife undergoing chemotherapy - telling her he loves her in sickness and in health.  It is Prince Charles accepting his son's choice and then stepping in to give her that very public act of acceptance into the family. It is my friend T... a Catholic marrying her M....her Muslim husband and the marriage lasting for forty-seven years before his untimely death. It is an acquaintance A... forgiving her son for the ultimate betrayal of killing her husband -  and visiting that same son in prison week on week for over a decade.
Love isn't an easy idea. It isn't a comfortable idea. Love, real love, requires immense commitment. It requires the ability to forgive, to comfort and care for someone without clinging to them or expecting anything in return. How many of us are good at that? 
Instead of gloating over a false belief that the Bishop was  using the occasion to make a political point we should have been listening. Instead of gloating over the assumed reaction to what he  said we should be acting on those ideas.
We need to think about love.