Joining the armed services

used to be a "thing" for some families. There was a "proud tradition". At one time wealthy families saw it as their "duty" to have at least one member of their family seen to do active service.

In my own extended family there is a history of naval service. The Senior Cat would have joined the navy if he had passed the medical. That they did not even want him during war time perhaps says something about his eyesight and his very flat feet. I am grateful he did not get accepted. My mother might not have had his love and support. My siblings and I might not be here. He would not have been the same person. 

No, we did not go the route of one in the services, one in the legal profession, one in the church. I do know families like that but they are less common now.

I had one of those casual conversations about it yesterday. I was on a train going into the city when the people opposite me had been discussing this. One of them turned to me and asked what I thought. I suppose it was perfectly obvious that I had been listening. It was the sort of conversation you cannot avoid hearing.

We talked for a bit. These two men were "returned" men. They had seen active service. Would they recommend it as a career path now? Their answer was "no". 

"Up until last week," one of them told me, "I might have suggested it, especially for some young one who was not sure what to do with their life. Now I would tell them to stay away. If the government can't support their military men then don't (...) near it."

The other man agreed.

They were of course referring to the arrest of our most decorated war hero. We discussed the psychology of the battle field and the way those on active duty react. We discussed the aftermath. I told them of my experiences living in a "soldier settler" area. (We discovered people we all knew.) 

One of them helped me get the trike off the train and we parted company but the other said, "Spread the word - support, not suppression." 

It's an interesting thought, one that is being discussed elsewhere. I know, from personal experience, if your employer does not support you or the people you work with, then loyalty and a willingness to stay goes out the door with you.