I cannot find anything!

 At least it seems as if I cannot find anything. This is not just a serious source of frustrating but time consuming and...dangerous.

My BIL is still trying to insist that the house needs to be empty of absolutely everything even before the potential agents have a look. All of us have tried to explain that this is not the way things are done. We have even tried showing him photographs of how houses are sold now but he will not be convinced.

"No, come on. It has to be empty. We can't have any stuff lying around at all," he tells us.

Of course I am still here. Oh. "Well the bare minimum Cat needs," he tells us.

His idea of the "bare minimum" and mine are quite different. While he goes to work looking clean and tidy when he comes here to do something he is happy to wear the same dirty clothes for a week or more...and they are dirty, even absolutely filthy. I just cannot do that.

We have argued over the need to iron clothes. According to him "nobody irons stuff". Excuse me? Does he think the shirts he wears to the office do not get ironed? He thinks they are drip dry in the way his school shirts were drip dry...and I suspect his mother still ironed those. His business shirts are better quality than that now and they need ironing. P...who does the cleaning does it if Middle Cat cannot and, at the moment, Middle Cat is still in hospital.

But then it comes to the serious stuff. I could not find the nail scissors and I do need to keep them short - especially right now. More serious still are they perhaps with my medication. My BP is high enough with all the stress so not having access to that could be disastrous. I finally find these things "out in the shed where you will have to sort all the stuff I dumped". Sigh...but at least I have found it.

Then my personal file disappeared and it was panic stations again. The information in that is absolutely vital...I found it "put away safely".

I cannot find the household phone book - for the numbers we need but not often. It means I have not been able to contact some people I need to talk to about this or that...and BIL gets annoyed because I have not done. "You should have all those things in your phone Cat!" 

No, I don't work like that. The bank has just sent me a new card. I have to go into the bank to activate because I cannot and will not clutter up my simple phone with something called an "app". I won't need it after the card is activated. That sort of thing is clutter to me but my BIL says they are "essential". 

I think we are coming from two entirely different directions...so why in the heck do I feel so fond of my BIL? He really does mean well and he has done an awful lot of work here. It is just that I cannot find things.